The Dating Game

"So Bachelorette, do you choose Bachelor 1, Bachelor 2 or Bachelor 3?"

Unfortunately dating is not that easy.  I just got out of a three and a half year relationship, which was almost immediately after a almost 5 year relationship.  So I have been out of the game for almost ten years.  That means the last time I was actually on a proper 'date' I was 18?!

With both my past relationships, I knew that the guys were interested from the start.  There was no game playing, we met, I gave them my number, they called (albeit 3 days later, so following 'The Rules'), we went on a date, things went well, the rest is history.  I never worried about "are they going to call,"  "what if they don't like me etc."
Now I am back in the game and here we are.

A few months ago, the name of a guy that I haven't heard from in years appeared in my email inbox.  He and his mates were planning a holiday and were thinking of Barbados.  He asked what it is like etc.  This started a email/BBM relationship.  We talked on and off for a few months, normal old friend convo. "Hey what's up? The weather is great!"  His buddies decided on a trip to Vegas instead, so we made plans to meet up for a drink when I came home in May.

We weren't able to meet up in May, but we did agree that we definitely would while I was home for summer. One day, I BBM'd him about the yucky weather during rainy season and his response was "I wanted to take you away somewhere cold while you are home since you missed winter, but I guess I will have to take you somewhere sunny."

I may be a rookie in this game, but there is no grey area in that comment.  This guy was interested.  That intro led to a few hours long convo, about how he has been interested for years but I was never single.  I left that convo feeling pretty good, and then-- nothing.  Never heard from him again.  The day I arrived in Canada for summer holidays I sent him an email about getting a drink, and he confirmed that he would in fact like a drink.  Then nothing.  My phone has still not rang.

Now, here's the thing gentlemen.  What game exactly are we playing?  Is it the "let's see how many girls we can piss off so that we never get a date" game, because I don't really like that one  :(
Really, what exactly are you accomplishing?  Being all mysterious and waiting to call doesn't make you mysterious, it makes you look like a wanker.  And I am not quite sure I believe all of that 'I don't want to hurt any one's feelings' because whose feelings are you really considering when you say a bunch of things that you don't mean?

Look, if you like me, I want you to call me.  I am not going to think you are desperate.  I know I am fabulous, so OBVIOUSLY you would want to call me right away.  And later, if you find you are not really  that into me, just say so, because although rejection does suck for a minute or two; there are plenty more of you waiting in the wings. I'll get over it I promise.  Knowing that it is not going to work and telling me that is better than me and my girlfriends sitting around for hours on end discussing and analyzing what happened to you: did you have a girlfriend or a wife/a sick mother/a bad accident/some sort of defect that you didn't want me to know about/do you work for CSIS or are you just a not nice person?  You disappearing is like when you lose something, you are not mad that you lost it, you are mad because you don't know what happened to it.  Because really you are not that big of a deal.  But I am kind of a big deal  ;)

As time goes on, and I do not hear from Mr. Weekend Away I can't help but think that it's more of his loss than it is mine.  At least I am not all talk.